Every marriage goes through some things that can bring a wedge between husband and wife. This has been true since the beginning of time. You could say that Eve ate Adam out of house and home. In Genesis 25:28, we read this. “And Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison: but Rebekah loved Jacob.” There was a division between Isaac and Rebekah due to the children. This got so bad, Rebekah had to make Jacob leave for fear of his life. We do not have to have a bad marriage.
We know hardship in the marriage relationship is probable, but it does not define the marriage relationship, nor does it have to be a permanent part of your relationship. Your marriage needs good times. You could say that your marriage needs to have some fun.
Different people define fun differently, but in the context of marriage, what husband and wife have for fun should be had together. I heard one husband say that he and his wife have some fun because he purposely tries to make her laugh just being a goofball. Another husband said that they do impromptu date nights. In his latest outing, he took his wife to the park and they watched the sunset eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches while sipping on sparkling cider.
If you realize that, at some point, every marriage will be hard, why would you possibly focus on that? It would only amplify feeling that marriage is hard and could lead to bitterness. Instead, focus on what brings some fun and joy into your marriage. Make a list of fun things the two of you have done together in the past. With that as a basis, bucket list some ideas for fun in the future, whether it is tomorrow or ten years from now. Live to have some fun in your marriage today!